Many of us don’t like being by ourselves. Instead of savoring our alone time, we just feel lonely. […]
But solitude is essential. “Being alone is when you can consciously be in relationship with yourself,” Simms said. And just like any relationship, your relationship with yourself needs nurturing, she said.
Thayer equated solitude to a good night’s sleep. “It can recharge you and make time with others more valuable,” she said. “We feel no need to be ‘on,’ and can drop any need for self-conscious expression,” Duffy said.
Solitude also is important for self-reflection. “Many of us process things better when we spend some time alone,” Duffy said. Glatzel agreed: “It is not until I provide myself the space and sanctity of roaming out on my own that I am able to really listen to those little voices in my heart guiding me to the choices that would be the best fit for me.”
“Many of us find that we make better decisions, and experience more of those magical a-ha! moments, when in thoughtful solitude,” Duffy added.
The suggestions…
3 Ideas for Enjoying Your Alone Time
Start small. For instance, if you’re going to the gym, carve out some time to grab a cup of tea and read a book, Glatzel said. Take a bath or take the long way to work and sing along to your favorite tunes, she said. Then eventually you can try lengthier activities, such as seeing a movie or spending a solitary Saturday at home, Thayer said.
Identify enjoyable activities. The great thing about being alone is that you can do whatever you like. That means experimenting with and practicing your individual preferences. […]
Find a guided meditation program. “This can be a non-threatening way to sit calmly and patiently with yourself, without unnecessary expectation other than peace of mind,” Duffy said.